Putting children first

Young girls looking at phone

Resolution, has this week released the results of a poll of young people aged 14-22 with experience of parental separation. The organisation, with 6,500 members who are family mediators, lawyers and other professionals committed to the constructive resolution of family disputes, hopes the insights will help parents understand the impact of divorce and separation from a child’s perspective.   

Interestingly, children and young people don’t necessarily view divorce and separation as a bad thing. 82% of young people asked said that they’d rather their parents separated than stay together if they were unhappy. Their concerns related to what happens after the decision to divorce or separate.

48% of young people asked said that their parents did not properly explain what would happen after divorce. The findings highlight that children and young people want to know what is going to happen after their parents separate and to have more of a say about decisions being made. 

As part of Resolution’s Family Dispute Resolution week, separating parents are being encouraged to put their children first.  Mediation is an alternative to Court and puts the children at the centre of decisions being made about the future. Family mediators are specially trained to focus on the needs of the children in the family, and will always work with parents to do that together. 

Family Mediation is a process which encourages separating parents to not only think about what decisions they will make but also what and how  information will be communicated to the children. It is also a process in which, where appropriate, children can have a say, with some mediators being specially trained to involve children directly in the family mediation process. Whilst there is lots to think about when deciding whether or not it is appropriate for an individual child to be involved directly, involving children can be hugely beneficial.  

At MyMediation we can help you to put your children first, ensuring that they are given information and, where appropriate, ensuring they have a say.  To talk about this, or any other aspects of family mediation, please call the family team on 0113 320 2288 or email info@my-mediation.co.uk.